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Post by devilwoman on Jul 2, 2015 4:21:59 GMT -5
Agreed! There is so much that people who live with and love the mentally ill go through that many folks do not know or understand. So many need others to talk to and to know that they are not alone. For instance, when my mother died from lung cancer, it wad just my 3 siblings and I and a priest we had never meet before at her graveside funeral. None of us cried. We talked about it afterwards and all 4 of us said that what we were feeling was not grief but rather closure. After all, we had spent the last 30 years grieving for the mother we had lost to the illness and now it was over. But this is not how a child is supposed the feel at her mother's death - right? But that was how we felt. In the 5th anniversity of my mother's death, I went by myself to see the movie "A Beautiful Mind" about a brilliant mathemetician who was schizophrenic. I finally cried over mother's death, all throughout the movie and then cried myself to sleep. Thankyou for sharing your story, DancyGeorgia, I feel it is very important, if people feel ready, for these things to be discussed to help overcome the stigma. Just like we've been seeing with issues like sexuality and orientation, transgenders, drug addiction, incest, etc...Many, many years ago, my cousin had a child out of wedlock in a small rural part of Ireland, and as was done then, she hid the child in the house, he couldn't even go to church. Well, my grandmother said no child in her family was going to be bought up in shame, and being religious, she thought it very important that he meet god in church. She took him to church herself, and told everybody this was her grandchild. Needless to say, I loved my grandmother. We need ground breakers like this, and even if it seems only a small thing to do to discuss stuff like this on a forum, it is huge, because of it's impact.
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Post by csimms4 on Jul 2, 2015 6:27:45 GMT -5
I have been reading the thread all day - but I didn't get a chance to comment as I have been out with family celebrating Canada Day. So proud of everyone who shared their stories here today. I have several family members who suffer from mental illness on various levels and I agree that there is such a stigma associated with talking about it. If I had an appendix attack and had to be hospitalized - there would be no stigma attached to talking about it - so why if I were bi polar or schizophrenic or depressed is it taboo to talk about it ???? In some small way here today by talking and supporting each other we are part of the change that needs to happen. Just one of the many reasons I love this fandom. Agreed! There is so much that people who live with and love the mentally ill go through that many folks do not know or understand. So many need others to talk to and to know that they are not alone. For instance, when my mother died from lung cancer, it wad just my 3 siblings and I and a priest we had never meet before at her graveside funeral. None of us cried. We talked about it afterwards and all 4 of us said that what we were feeling was not grief but rather closure. After all, we had spent the last 30 years grieving for the mother we had lost to the illness and now it was over. But this is not how a child is supposed the feel at her mother's death - right? But that was how we felt. In the 5th anniversity of my mother's death, I went by myself to see the movie "A Beautiful Mind"about a brilliant mathemetician who was schizophrenic. I finally cried over mother's death, all throughout the movie and then cried myself to sleep. Big hug for you. There is no play book to how one is supposed to feel when there is a loss. No one can understand your story but you. I can relate as I often feel guilty for being relieved when my mother decides to stay home rather than join the family somewhere. It's hard to admit and maybe it's selfish.
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Post by freakydeaky on Jul 2, 2015 6:38:20 GMT -5
Big hug for you. There is no play book to how one is supposed to feel when there is a loss. No one can understand your story but you. I can relate as I often feel guilty for being relieved when my mother decides to stay home rather than join the family somewhere. It's hard to admit and maybe it's selfish. And real feelings are like that. That's ok, to feel selfish. It's about admitting them, and learning to accept them. When my mother died, I felt many things, but mainly relief, because I hurted seeing her in so much pain, and it was selfish. But that is how I felt. There's no point pretending otherwise. But it was so confusing because I felt many other things as well, guilt for feeling selfish, etc, and it took me 6 months to start grieving, but that's another story.. It has to be ok to have these horrible, ugly feelings, for the simple fact, that we do. We can't overcome what we can't admit. Feelings are awful icky at times..
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Post by Holst on Jul 2, 2015 6:40:19 GMT -5
Was someone playing GS Boys "Do the Stanky Legg"? That came out in 2013, was a minor hit in 2014. It has a really stupid dance that goes with it. No it is Silento - Watch Me ( Whip/Nae Nae ) www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjW8wmF5VWcHA! A comment from that video (surely tongue in cheek).
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Post by freakydeaky on Jul 2, 2015 6:45:14 GMT -5
HA! A comment from that video (surely tongue in cheek). I hope it's tongue in cheek.....
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