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Post by maddie509 on Apr 14, 2013 17:07:26 GMT -5
Interesting, this talk of work and relationships in the entertainment industry. Please note that none of this necessarily applies to Adam and any current or past situations, but just to my own experiences and observations.
Relationships in the entertainment industry are hard. First, in order to have a chance at making it in any way, you pretty much have to put your career first for a number of years. Generally, it takes a tremendous amount of focus, work, determination and luck to make things happen for yourself. Sometimes life is exhilarating and fantastically surreal; other times it is exhausting and lonely. Sometimes it is all of those things at the same time. Creatively, you become completely involved in a project and live pretty much inside that space until it is over. You bond with the group of people who are part of your creative endeavor and spend more time with them than with anybody else until that project is over. You often have to travel and be away from the fixed people in your life in order to make it all happen. You do this because you are driven and there is no other option. You need to create your art; it gives you life, but it also takes you away from the life you have outside of your art.
I say all this as the long term partner of an artist in the entertainment industry. As someone mentioned, following your partner around gets old fast. Even when your partner is home and project- free and has time to focus all his remarkable energy on you, there are long periods of time where he is gone. Lots of shared life responsibilities become yours to manage. You never can really plan when your partner will be available to you because some career thing can come up at any moment that he will then need to go off and do. When he is home, if he is fully immersed in a creative cycle, you can become somewhat peripheral during that process.
This doesn't mean that these relationships can't work, but it is perhaps a reason why they often don't work for many until they are a bit older and their careers are more established and their lives somewhat less crazy.
Adam is young and he has a long time to work things out.
Adam is young and he has a long time to work things out.
For myself, I have learned to be very independent, to have my own creative projects going on, and to plan ways to keep busy and maintain relationships while my husband is away, but none of that would matter if at some point I hadn't consciously decided, and acknowledged to myself, that I choose to be with my husband for whatever time I have with him rather than to be with anybody else for longer.
In turn, he has learned to make the shared times pretty worth it. 
Thanks, Viv, for the good thoughts. xo
Thanks, Viv, for the good thoughts. xo
I love and appreciate this post so much!! Thank you, lynne, for giving us the insight and perspective of someone who can actually relate to the topic, personally. I had a little not so proud moment of "outburst" a few days ago over the incessant going-in-circles discussion of the breakup, which often times laced with undertones of defensiveness and protectiveness from different "camps", your post, IMO, said it all and it's a perfect bookend to this discussion!
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...I like his clothes. Very beachy and never dull..
Loved his comment about the key...'what does it open'? LMAO. 
