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Post by Q3 on Jun 5, 2011 9:27:51 GMT -5
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*Big Sigh* Someone advise me. What should I do?? My sons Grandpa (on their Dads side) passed away tonight. Oldest son called me & told me earlier tonight. Youngest son lives in Hawaii. He's probably just getting off work now. I doubt that his dad is still up. I know that my oldest son isn't up. Should I call him or not?
Maybe it's not my place? I'm kind of waiting up to see if he calls me?? I just hate this stuff. Oh, my sons' Dad is my ex of over 30 years. I guess I won't call. I just don't know what to do.
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Post by Q3 on Jun 5, 2011 9:28:53 GMT -5
Moved from news thread: Cassie wrote: *Big Sigh* Someone advise me. What should I do?? My sons Grandpa (on their Dads side) passed away tonight. Oldest son called me & told me earlier tonight. Youngest son lives in Hawaii. He's probably just getting off work now. I doubt that his dad is still up. I know that my oldest son isn't up. Should I call him or not? Maybe it's not my place? I'm kind of waiting up to see if he calls me?? I just hate this stuff. Oh, my sons' Dad is my ex of over 30 years. I guess I won't call. I just don't know what to do. Well, your son called to inform you, even tho his dad is your ex of over 30 years, right? I am sure you appreciated him sharing this with you. Certainly the news can wait until your older son or your ex informs your younger son. It is not your obligation. Putting yourself in your son's place, would you appreciate the call sooner rather than later? And, is this the kind of sharing of family info that you normally do with your son? Would he think it was considerate or would he think it was intrusive? I, personally, would want to have the news ASAP. I would appreciate whomever thought of letting me know. That's just me. |
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Post by Q3 on Jun 5, 2011 9:29:37 GMT -5
Moved from news thread: Posted by glittergma *Big Sigh* Someone advise me. What should I do?? My sons Grandpa (on their Dads side) passed away tonight. Oldest son called me & told me earlier tonight. Youngest son lives in Hawaii. He's probably just getting off work now. I doubt that his dad is still up. I know that my oldest son isn't up. Should I call him or not? Maybe it's not my place? I'm kind of waiting up to see if he calls me?? I just hate this stuff. Oh, my sons' Dad is my ex of over 30 years. I guess I won't call. I just don't know what to do. Well, your son called to inform you, even tho his dad is your ex of over 30 years, right? I am sure you appreciated him sharing this with you. Certainly the news can wait until your older son or your ex informs your younger son. It is not your obligation. Putting yourself in your son's place, would you appreciate the call sooner rather than later? And, is this the kind of sharing of family info that you normally do with your son? Would he think it was considerate or would he think it was intrusive? I, personally, would want to have the news ASAP. I would appreciate whomever thought of letting me know. That's just me. Thanks for the reply, Cassie.  My youngest son would never think it intrusive of me at all. I just hate the idea of being the bearer of bad news, even if it's expected. We're a very close family, even tho we've been divorced for many years. I've decided to let my ex call my youngest son tomorrow. I was mainly thinking of the time difference, and knowing that my son was just off work now. I know his dad is not up now. I know this will be hard for him (my youngest boy) as he hasn't seen his Grandpa for a while. He offered to come, but his dad told him he didn't want to see his Gpa like this, and was confirmed by my oldest son, who lives here. Anyways, I do appreciate your input. I was struggling with it, and just needed someones opinion. But, had actually decided not to call at this point. I'll leave it up to his dad, although he wouldn't have minded if I had called either. Just one of those life struggles, ya know? TY, Cassie. |
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Post by Q3 on Jun 5, 2011 9:36:37 GMT -5
glittergma,
My advise is to definitely call you son as soon as you can.
If he does not know, he should get the news as soon as possible. And if he already knows about it, it will give him an opportunity to talk about it.
I actually did not find out about my Grandmother dying until after her funeral because my family did not want me to feel obligated to fly cross country for a funeral. I still regret not being there and would have loved to have known when it happened.
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Post by seashell on Jun 5, 2011 12:29:29 GMT -5
Lynne- Thanks for sharing.. how awesome to see recognition like that for a child.. you must be bursting with pride for him.. Glamnana- ahhhh.. tough decision there.  I just realized I am coming in way after you had to make this decision.. oops.. but hugs anyway. |
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Post by glamnana on Jun 5, 2011 13:24:05 GMT -5
Well, I need some positive energy for my dd. She has fiannly gotten pregnant with her 2nd child at 37. They have been trying for about 2 years. She had a miscarriage last year in the first few weeks, so is kinda nervous. Will be 5 weeks next week, and is planning on having an ultrasound to check baby's heartbeat. (Who woulda thunk 20 yrs ago it would be possible to get a heart beat so early? ???) She has a friend who lost her baby at 5 weeks. Apparently the baby's heart stopped beating & she didn't know until ultrasound. Had to have a DNC. So, of course, dd is worried. Although she is a person who believes in positive thinking, I can tell she is having a hard time with this. And, as her Mom should, I have reassured her that all will be fine this time, but I am also kinda nervous. Anyhoo, you are all sooo good at sending out positive vibes to the universe, that I thought you could send a few her way.  Glamnana, My kindred soul. Oh My, you really are my kinda/sorta twin. My Dear Daughter In Law has also been trying for 2 years, and is 37. She & my Son have a 3yo son, Ryan, my Pride and Joy, but have been trying for #2 for 2 years. Seems it will not happen.....yet... I have Faith & Trust. She also miscarried, really early, last year. They had to have help with a fertility clinic for the 1st go around, but worked the 1st time. Not so much now, so they are letting it go, in hopes of a normal pregnancy. If not, then foster to adopt. It will all work out in the end, I'm sure of it. Such good parents, they are. So very loving and giving. And, educational, which is so important. Sending all the positive vibes & white light to your DD. May she be blessed with a healthy, happy baby. Thinking of you too, Gma! Way BIG hugsssssss to U!!!!! LOL, we def are kinda/sorta twins! After her miscarriage, my dd saw a fertility dr to make sure she, and her dh, were "ok". They both passed with flying colors, so she decided to leave it in the hands of the universe. Was really accepting that her 4 yr old son would prob be her only child. She has a very high pressure job, and her life can be very stressful at times. Her Mother's Day gift was a vacay at a posh resort in DW for the 3 of them. She had a very relaxing, stress free weekend, and it appears she got pregnant on Mother's Day!  Although we are thousands of miles away, we talk often. But I really feel like she will need one of my "Mommy hugs" if anything does go wrong. Hey, what am I saying? Nothing will go wrong. Positive thoughts, positive thoughts. I can't say enough how much you all lift my spirits. ETA: I am too late to offer my advice about your son, so I will just say that I hope the news was not too hard for him. :( |
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Post by JazzRocks on Jun 5, 2011 15:13:17 GMT -5
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Post by kapsiz on Jun 5, 2011 17:55:09 GMT -5
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Post by SusieFierce on Jun 5, 2011 18:28:36 GMT -5
My nephew Justin's Best Hitter & Pitcher awards in France. 2011 Euro Cup! Go Justin & Stockholm Baseboll!  Congrats, Kapsiz!! That's awesome for him.   |
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Post by kapsiz on Jun 5, 2011 22:03:35 GMT -5
I absolutely love the fact that my Dad is still so in love with my Mom! Almost 54 years now - and cooks for her everyday - it's his passion! He said this on his facebook page tonight ~ "dinner with my squeeze!!! - one more hour for the veggies!" And posted this pic -  ;D ;D ILHSFM! |
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My youngest son would never think it intrusive of me at all. I just hate the idea of being the bearer of bad news, even if it's expected. We're a very close family, even tho we've been divorced for many years.
