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Post by seashell on Jun 6, 2011 22:49:44 GMT -5
Aloha.. you are right I am a grown up. We all gave JD some props in the beginning..... However, he has chosen a very public type job...and not everyone will realize what is going on.. and like Cassie has said.. not every job is the right fit. So if he stays with this.. *shrugs*
good night everyone
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Post by NoAngel on Jun 6, 2011 22:50:29 GMT -5
Aloha... You are beautiful. And brave. Thank you! 
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Post by cassie on Jun 6, 2011 22:51:32 GMT -5
Aloha: WoW! That put it all in a new perspective. It is brave of you to share your experience with us. I am afraid that I am guilty of making armchair diagnoses and drawing uninformed conclusions from little information.
Reading what you said, I have to take a close look at myself and admit that I, despite working with people with disabilities for 35 years, have difficulty with some disabled people. Despite knowing their diagnoses, and knowing what they can and cannot control, there are certain behaviors, and even appearances, that make me uncomfortable. That exasperate me and I lose my patience. That make me want to avoid being around that person. I'm not proud of it, but I have to at least acknowledge it.
And, yes, James makes me uncomfortable when he speaks, when he sings (that's not the disability, tho'), when he tweets. He irritates me. But, after reading your post, I am gonna stop commenting on him. Not my business, and I need to shut up.
Thanks for coming forward, and making me look at MY behavior instead of James'.
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Post by maria222pf on Jun 6, 2011 22:55:53 GMT -5
Thank you for the explanation Aloha, it allows a totally new way of looking at JD's behaviour. Your son is lucky to have you as a mom.
I also agree with seashell and cassie - best of luck to JD and hopefully with Daughtry's mentoring he can get the career he wants and I can focus on stanning Adam. The less I hear about him the better.
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Post by evergreen on Jun 6, 2011 22:57:10 GMT -5
Thank you, Aloha, and all others who shared today to make us all understand a little better.
If we say once the discrimination against gays is past us, we're done - it isn't true, is it?
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Post by whatfun on Jun 6, 2011 22:58:00 GMT -5
IDK Aloha. I appreciate where you are coming from, and your son sounds wonderful. But your son is not James, and James is not your son. You can't help but see your son when you look at James, I get that. I think it is common for those emotionally involved with family members and friends with disabilities to project their own situations onto others.
But it is projection.
And honestly, it feels like emotional blackmail. I'm tired of feeling like a bad person when I have an increasingly hard time excusing every little thing James does.
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Post by durberville on Jun 6, 2011 22:59:10 GMT -5
Interesting take on James, Aloha...thanks.
I'll just try to ignore the kid....he irritates the hell outta me, sorry.
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Post by maria222pf on Jun 6, 2011 23:00:29 GMT -5
IDK Aloha. I appreciate where you are coming from, and your son sounds wonderful. But your son is not James, and James is not your son. You can't help but see your son when you look at James, I get that. I think it is common for those emotionally involved with family members and friends with disabilities to project their own situations onto others. But it is projection. And honestly, it feel like emotional blackmail. I'm tired of feeling like a bad person when I have an increasingly hard time excusing every little thing James does. You are a brave woman and I admire your honesty  |
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Post by scorpio on Jun 6, 2011 23:07:08 GMT -5
Brava aloha.....gotta love this place and the people in it!! EVERYONE always has room for growth, and I for one am glad to be a part of such an incredible community, where we can discuss such things openly, and learn from each other in the process.
I admit to being REALLY frustrated by JD's tweets, and I soooo admire you, aloha, that you would care enough to open your heart and trust us enough to share a little piece of your private life with us in order to help expand our awareness. I absolutely love you for this!
I also want to thank everyone else that shared some of their personal experiences with us here today in order to expand our awareness. Gave me food for thought....
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Post by jamie on Jun 6, 2011 23:08:55 GMT -5
It doesn't matter to me if you're a teacher, doctor, social worker - whatever. Unless you've been in that person's shoes, you don't have any idea what is going on in their heads. Even if you are a person who suffers from the same disorder - whatever it is - you are not in that other person's head. Yes, we should all make the right decisions on how to represent ourselves in life, but I've sure had enough bashing (by myself and others) for the things that I've done that I really could not mentally control at the time. Things that I know were probably horrible, that I don't remember. That doesn't mean that I haven't spent hours and days regretting those actions and wishing I could take them back. Sorry, I digress, this is not about me. Just trying to understand the generalization and overall unsympathetic comments regarding some comments by an obviously confused young man. Doesn't really matter, and I should delete, but that's how I feel about it. Not trying to start any arguments. sugaree, I'm glad you didn't delete. Thank you so much for sharing. People's knowledge and understanding of mental disorders is still so poor and people like you who speak up will help to change things. I have a physical illness that also affects my thinking, it's not any classified mental disorder just stopped working right like swiss cheese. And as bad as all the physical problems are I'd keep every one of them if I could have my old brain back and I know it's not even close to what you have to deal with every day. Your right, unless I had this little bit of insight it would be hard to begin to "get" it. I really don't know what to make of James I had my laughs with a side of guilt and hope that's the end of it. But wanted to let you know how brave you are for sharing and continuing on every day with your beautiful spirit. ETA: Aloha, may your beautiful brave son find the same love and understanding he has with you already with the wider world around him some day soon. |
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