3.3.11 Adam News & Info

Cookie, You're doing it perfectly because you listen and care. I don't think you need to worry about parsing language too heavily. And I don't know anyone - man, woman, gay, straight, trans - who doesn't find gender a trippy area in terms of language. The background to my remarks was a few posters (very very few here) have been making comments that made encouraging noises about (insert influence or recent epiphany here) leading Adam to be (my words-they use less neutral terms) 'less glam' - and there's a bit of condescension attached - like Adam's outgrowing something or improving.

Truth? The ladies with whom I was chatting (re charity:water initially) were more disturbed than I (shamefully I tend to forget the significant lesbian representation among Adam's fan base) and wondering how to address it in a way that people would understand the concern in context. Mostly, I don't bother because frankly, for good or ill, my expectations re that sort of understanding are quite low. But a recent post - not today and clearly well meant - felt a bit like a lugy of negative stereotype. I was hoping someone would pick up on it and comment, but didn't happen. So today's discussion seemed like a reasonable place to raise the issue. (I consider my duty to the cause fulfilled and am returning to general complacency, highlighted by my appreciation for lovely men, bad television, old movies and questionable literature. Big big hearts to you~~~