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Post by mahailia on Nov 13, 2012 9:28:41 GMT -5
Runnin??? Runnin????? Runnin?????????????????????OMG - I'll get a heart attack if I hear that live... DED!  YAY!!!!!!! This will be so awesome, everybody loooves RUNNIN. I remember Adam said he was surprised that everyone liked that song so much. Also when Slash told him how cool his lower register runs sounded. WERK it Adam!!! |
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Post by mahailia on Nov 13, 2012 9:22:22 GMT -5
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Post by mahailia on Nov 13, 2012 9:18:19 GMT -5
sugaree
your grammar is just fine, I don't see any thing that needs to be red lined.
Just glad to see you here!
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Post by mahailia on Nov 13, 2012 7:45:56 GMT -5
mys*&@^#r , I just heard the news.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. At least you got to be with her, and I think it is wonderful that you got to see her every day. My mom will be 90 soon, but she lives very far away from me, and I only get to see her once a year. If something happened to her, I would get there too late.
Your mom will always live in your heart and will watch over you from the great beyond.
My sincere sorrow for your loss, and sending light and love your way.
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Post by mahailia on Nov 12, 2012 13:05:55 GMT -5
lynne ~Just points out how accepted it is for girls to dress in "male" costumes, but heaven forbid a boy dressing in a "female" costume. Double standard to the nth degree, driven by our patriarchial male dominated macho society. Like tomboys and sissies. p.s. Hi, Junie, great pic of you and Adam! So nice to see your face again 
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Post by mahailia on Nov 12, 2012 12:19:11 GMT -5
Kay said: (too lazy to quote and delete most of her post) I would love to hear the stories of people's youth and what signs family and caregivers missed, and what they could have done differently, so that little boys like Lana, who struggle with identity, could be helped much earlier than in all the sad stories we hear. - I'm borrowing Mahailia's post to tagalong. I've posted this site before but I really love following the journey of CJ and his family. I'm a little sad that this vibrant little person has started to curb what he really wants out of concern for public reaction - he's five now. I'm glad you were moved by Lana's speech as I was - I was caught by her comment on not liking the term 'transition' and the problems of a society which insists on either/or instead of seeing a spectrum on such identity issues as race, sexuality, gender... Here's the blog I ref'd - much like Lana and Adam, CJ won the 'parent lottery' - so many aren't so lucky to have parents willing or able to be so supportive and to see the world through different eyes for the sake of their child. raisingmyrainbow.com/Thanks for posting this again, I think I remember clicking it before, and it provided some very interesting reading. Major KUDOS to this family, it takes courage, strength and resolve to do what they are doing, and lots and lots of love. They are setting a great example, and paving the way for other gender bending children and their families. I understand your sadness at seeing this amazing young boy having to capitulate to society's judgment. We all have to learn to get along in this world, and this little boy is being educated quite early in his life. At least he gets to be himself at home and in his inner circle of family and friends, and has a new playmate, how wonderful. I saw the play "Billy Elliot" while in the UK, and there was this great scene with Billy's friend dressing in his mom's clothes and a fabulous dance number, so fun. It was a great way to express the joy these boys had in dressing up. (wish I could have found a better YT, but hang in there, it gets better) Here is one that is audio only, but you can understand the dialogue better: www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfub9KLxIxI&playnext=1&list=PL1CB2A388E8770BA9&feature=results_videoThe latest blog entry about choosing a "boy" costume for Halloween reminded me of a story of my own: My son was in the 2nd grade, and the kids are allowed to wear costumes to school for Halloween. He wanted to be a fairy for Halloween. I told him that he could not be a fairy, because only girls are fairies. I was trying to protect him from being ridiculed at school, and right or wrong, this is how I chose to handle the situation. My son is very head strong, I should say "bull headed" (he is a Taurus), and he kept after me, I want to be a fairy, I want to be a fairy. He was very insistent, and went on for a couple of weeks. I finally told him that if he could find a male fairy character, that I would make his costume for him. 2 days before Halloween, he had found his male fairy, the Fairy Prince from the Thumbellina story. (He is persistent!) So we went to the store, bought what we needed for his costume, and made him a really cool looking Fairy Prince costume. He had leggings and emerald green slippers with turned up toes (like elf shoes), a long belted tunic with puffy upper sleeves, an exotic gold zodiac pendant, and beautiful glitter fairy wings and a gold crown. I really wish I had taken a picture, don't know why I didn't. Maybe the camera was broken or lost. Anyway, we were both excited about his costume, it was very cool (oops already said that). I took him to school, we were late as usual, and when we walked in his classroom, the entire classroom burst out laughing at my son's fairy costume. He didn't seem upset by this at the time, and we have laughed about it in recent times. I am pretty sure he never again wore a fairy costume. Now he is in college, and his costumes have become more intriguing and androgynous, and he still loves Halloween and dressing up. |
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Post by mahailia on Nov 12, 2012 10:05:57 GMT -5
thanks ladies!
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I thought the concert was today! duhhhhhh
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Post by mahailia on Nov 12, 2012 9:10:17 GMT -5
alek & lynne, love all your words.
but what the heck are these numbers?
I'm clueless, as usual.
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Post by mahailia on Nov 11, 2012 10:48:42 GMT -5
I had to take Shadow on that horrible ride last night. That's all I can see through my tears to type. - So so sorry. many of us have been there and know there is little comfort now when you've lost such a friend and companion --- hugs from afar sweet lady, you and Shadow are in our hearts and thoughts on this day of remembrance. ditto above, what mika said. It is so very very sad to loose a beloved pet, I have been there many times. sincere condolenses....... Sending warm hugs your way |
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Post by mahailia on Nov 11, 2012 10:08:15 GMT -5
Kay said: (too lazy to quote and delete most of her post)
I would love to hear the stories of people's youth and what signs family and caregivers missed, and what they could have done differently, so that little boys like Lana, who struggle with identity, could be helped much earlier than in all the sad stories we hear.
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Acceptance of differences, refusal to stereotype and assign "boxes", and foster an openness that allows individuality to flourish without judging.
This requires an education process to occur with early childhood teachers and caregivers specifically, and with society in general.
The first time my son saw a Barbie doll (he was raised with an older brother), he was 2 years old. We were at the beach with some friends that had 2 little girls. He ran to the doll, picked it up, and went crazy, like it was the best and most wonderful toy in the world.
At 3, I took him to Toys R Us and told him he could have any toy in the store he wanted. He wanted The Little Mermaid doll, Ariel, and that's what he got.
These kids know from an early age they are different*. They need to be nurtured as individuals, and not put in a box. The signs are there if you are paying attention.
When my son was in the 7th grade, I had a serious fight (not physical, obviously) with his teacher, who did not allow him to hang out with the girls before school. She told me that he needed to stay on the side of the yard with the boys. I told her that she had no right to keep my son away from his friends before school, and that he would hang out with whoever he wanted to. I did battle with her all year long.
*eta: I should clarify: different, as in not the same as most of the little boys and girls they meet in daycare or PK. Different interests, but these kids know their natural desires and attractions. Not in a sexual sense, in a sense of what games they like to play, what toys they want, what cartoons they enjoy watching, etc. and whether they like to play with boys or girls.
It is interesting that "tomboys" are widely known and accepted by society. There is currently no nickname I know of for boys that like to play with "girl" toys, other than "sissy".
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