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Post by Q3 on Jul 31, 2011 10:38:17 GMT -5
The kiss blown to Sauli during Aftermath was so beautiful -- I could not see Sauli but we knew who it was for.
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Post by murly on Jul 31, 2011 10:47:08 GMT -5
Thank you all so much!  And thank you, AMW for sharing your story. I have so many gay co-workers and friends, and live in an ultra-liberal place, and I sometimes forget how much of the country has a huge problem accepting love in whatever form it takes. I also have a lot of difficulty figuring out how love can cause so much fear and hate. Yet even here, I know that my gay friends are careful with PDA unless they're somewhere considered very safe and accepting, like the Castro. You'd be surprised by how fast a liberal soccer mom turns into a pearl-clutcher when she's at the mall with her kid and sees a same-sex couple holding hands. :-/ I was at a wedding last night (hated to have to tear myself away from the computer!) and I was at a table with two gay male couples and one straight, all people I work with. The straight couple were all over each other, cuddling, kissing, holding hands. The four guys (whom I've known for over ten years) were relaxed and funny but never once touched each other. I finally leaned over and asked one of them if he and his partner would dance once the band started. He told me they had discussed it in the car and decided no, they would never do anything that would jeopardize the wedding or the friend getting married. Imagine having to "discuss" what your appropriate behavior was going to be when you are celebrating with a group of friends. And I was mad because all I had to do was wear heels! Stories like this illuminate why equality is more than just laws. I've heard people say, "I don't hate gay people, but do they have to flaunt their relationships? You don't see me having to declare out loud that I'm straight!" I would urge any straight person to imagine what it would be like if gays were the majority and straight relationships were frowned upon. Imagine if you couldn't legally marry your opposite-sex partner. Or dance together in public. Or hold hands. Or even mention your partner without pretending that you're just friends. I recall an interview that Barbara Walters did with Ellen Degeneres, and Ellen said, "I know this makes some people uncomfortable. But I've been uncomfortable my whole life." I think if straight people really thought about all the restrictions that would come with denying the true nature of their relationship, they would realize that the world should not have to adjust to their comfort level. |
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Post by NoAngel on Jul 31, 2011 10:47:48 GMT -5
The kiss blown to Sauli during Aftermath was so beautiful -- I could not see Sauli but we knew who it was for. Thank you so much for your awesome recap!!! I just can't stop grinning like an idiot to think of Adam these days. He seems so very happy, and all his dreams are coming true, and he has someone to love and share it all with, omggggg it's just fantastic being his fan!  |
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Post by Q3 on Jul 31, 2011 10:59:22 GMT -5
adamlambert Adam Lambert
I'm getting a little burnt out on the term "swag" Is it just me?
I wonder what that is about???? Swag is a foolish term but I rarely hear it. But I think he is referring to swag -- the shortened form of swagger to mean one's style and how you carry yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2011 11:03:36 GMT -5
adamlambert Adam Lambert I'm getting a little burnt out on the term "swag" Is it just me? I wonder what that is about???? SWAG is a foolish term but I rarely hear it. Maybe he is doing some interviews? |
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Post by adamrocks on Jul 31, 2011 11:04:27 GMT -5
Stories like this illuminate why equality is more than just laws. I've heard people say, "I don't hate gay people, but do they have to flaunt their relationships? You don't see me having to declare out loud that I'm straight!" I would urge any straight person to imagine what it would be like if gays were the majority and straight relationships were frowned upon. Imagine if you couldn't legally marry your opposite-sex partner. Or dance together in public. Or hold hands. Or even mention your partner without pretending that you're just friends. I recall an interview that Barbara Walters did with Ellen Degeneres, and Ellen said, "I know this makes some people uncomfortable. But I've been uncomfortable my whole life." I think if straight people really thought about all the restrictions that would come with denying the true nature of their relationship, they would realize that the world should not have to adjust to their comfort level. So wonderfully said, Murly. |
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Post by mahailia on Jul 31, 2011 11:05:58 GMT -5
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Post by amw on Jul 31, 2011 11:07:32 GMT -5
Ok, so here's a classic dilemma of a gay person leading an interesting in/out life. I really WANT TO POST THIS SONG ON MY FACEBOOK page. But I have too many "friends" who are previous or current clients. IS this OK? I think? Should I do this? No, I think, maybe not; wouldn't want to "Offend" anyone.
Because my being gay forces people who I come out in support of gay people or as a gay person to think about my sexuality. Maybe I don't really want them to ponder my sexuality. It's easier to be in professional (and sometimes personal) relationship with straight people when what is at the forefront of their brains in not my sexuality. And 99% of my clients are straight women and their husbands. I'm really SURE most of their husbands do not want to know this about me, even if 75% are liberal free thinkers. Does this make sense?
So this is my dilemma. I will likely post this under my anonymous FB account, but I do not have nearly as many "friends" there as it was built for safety purposes.
I had not cried while hearing this song until I started thinking about sharing it. It strikes me hard that even I, liberal hippie child that I am have fear of being "found out".
It wasn't until I came out that I had even an inkling of hiding anything about myself. I'm an extrovert, classically gregarious, love to have a good time, dance, party, work hard, play hard kind of woman. I am passionate in speech and actions about the things I believe in and care about and my activism as a lesbian has been lacking because of what my partner and I would risk in professional happiness and financial ability if a parent of a student, or a client/patient took offense at who she or I love.
Until laws change, marriage for ALL is granted to those who decide to marry who they love, adoptions laws are changed so that in ALL states good parents would just be noted as good parents and gays can adopt children who need loving homes, this double life exists for almost anyone who is gay in this country and most of the world.
Adam, lucky Adam, has been gifted with a talent, coupled with insane confidence and belief in himself that he can be OUT LOUD PROUD every fucking day!! The music industry is not insulted by his sexuality on the whole. I am happy for him.
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Post by melliemom on Jul 31, 2011 11:13:20 GMT -5
Thank you No Angel ,you always make my Sundays a bit happier. Q3 your recap of the concert was so life like that I felt I was there with you,from Adam's seeming to look directly into your eyes,to the rain swept ,lightening thrust end of concert, to the fans who refused to leave Adam.The power of his very presence over shadowed even the elements. Thank you I smiled,I laughed ,I cried..
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Post by rad1109 on Jul 31, 2011 11:14:02 GMT -5
The song didn't make me tear up, but these personal stories do.
And really that is what Adam does, lets people know and love someone they might have perceived as different and really shows that we are all the same. Except we're not. Not yet.
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