7.31.11 Adam News & Info
Jul 31, 2011 13:42:26 GMT -5
Post by amw on Jul 31, 2011 13:42:26 GMT -5
midwifespal!!!! Love you too honey. It was GREAT watching vids with you, purely perfect.
And whoever posted that Ellen comment - Ellen is dead on about the feeling of discomfort surrounding the whole darn issue.
I dream of a day when my partner and I can walk down the street, holding hands and being ourselves with each other. I think many gay couples have learned to with hold PDA in mixed company, even verbally supportive mixed company. When my partner and I started dating, in our inner circles, where our lifestyle is accepted, we were a little surprised to discover how many people our public affectionate moments with each other were responded to in less than accepting fashion.
There were the occasional men at parties who would sidle up to tell us how "cute" we were together. Some of this was genuine but mostly there was this underlying hope that maybe we would find them cute too and perhaps entertain some sort of kinky sexual experience. sigh....
Then there were the straight women, whose buttons we pushed. One good friend would comment every single time she saw us holding hands, or with our arms around each other. a peck on the cheek would garner a "get a room!" response. Finally we called the bullshit where we saw it, and concurrently curtailed even mild displays of PDA unless we feel completely comfortable. Our friend to her credit, apologized and has learned to be more mindful, as have others, once we made it known we would not tolerate this thinly disguised intolerance.
Now I know that PDA in general, straight or gay can be too much for anyone, but what surprised me was the transition. I was married to a man for ten years. We never had comments from friends concerning our affection for each other in public, ever.
When I came out, all that changed and I learned to control even the slightest of movement, placing a hand on a knee in a restaurant, for example. Eye-opening it has been, indeed, as I am a naturally affectionate person.
The generations behind me are much more accepting. May this trend continue and may the activism of all who support the LBGT community multiply tenfold. Adam is one the leaders in this fight, bless him.
And whoever posted that Ellen comment - Ellen is dead on about the feeling of discomfort surrounding the whole darn issue.
I dream of a day when my partner and I can walk down the street, holding hands and being ourselves with each other. I think many gay couples have learned to with hold PDA in mixed company, even verbally supportive mixed company. When my partner and I started dating, in our inner circles, where our lifestyle is accepted, we were a little surprised to discover how many people our public affectionate moments with each other were responded to in less than accepting fashion.
There were the occasional men at parties who would sidle up to tell us how "cute" we were together. Some of this was genuine but mostly there was this underlying hope that maybe we would find them cute too and perhaps entertain some sort of kinky sexual experience. sigh....
Then there were the straight women, whose buttons we pushed. One good friend would comment every single time she saw us holding hands, or with our arms around each other. a peck on the cheek would garner a "get a room!" response. Finally we called the bullshit where we saw it, and concurrently curtailed even mild displays of PDA unless we feel completely comfortable. Our friend to her credit, apologized and has learned to be more mindful, as have others, once we made it known we would not tolerate this thinly disguised intolerance.
Now I know that PDA in general, straight or gay can be too much for anyone, but what surprised me was the transition. I was married to a man for ten years. We never had comments from friends concerning our affection for each other in public, ever.
When I came out, all that changed and I learned to control even the slightest of movement, placing a hand on a knee in a restaurant, for example. Eye-opening it has been, indeed, as I am a naturally affectionate person.
The generations behind me are much more accepting. May this trend continue and may the activism of all who support the LBGT community multiply tenfold. Adam is one the leaders in this fight, bless him.
