1.13.12 Adam News and Info

Cassie, thanks for raising this question. I get so upset by the 'us vs them' mentality but at the same time it's so easy to get caught up in it, whether it's at work, in politics, or online. Skylar, thanks so much for the article.

Aah, I find all of this so interesting, but no time to really read and digest it now. But i associate Csikszentmihalyi with the concept of *flow* -- kind of a complete engagement with creative energy (like being 'in the moment' or 'in the zone') which blocks out distracting and competing thoughts. This is totally what happens to Adam onstage. Sorry if this is going a bit OT, but here's an article about the concept. I found this particular article randomly, but I've read some of Csikszentmihalyi's writing before and so much of what is said in this article applies to Adam -- and to anyone who acts, writes, paints, plays sports, etc. etc.

austega.com/education/articles/flow.htm

Apart from being a bit of a intellectual dilettante anyway, these ideas are important to me because I keep trying to figure out what I'm doing here in the Adam fandom -- and to reference Juniemoon's words, I definitely feel like an outlier. Don't even understand all of my own reactions, but my instinctive response to anything in life that affects me for better or worse is to try to figure out what I"m supposed to be learning. Not intending to downplay my VISCERAL responses, which are equally important and mostly pleasurable, lol. Ok, I think I'm losing control of my verbiage (that sounds bad!) so I'll end this post.

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It's late so just want to thank everyone who responded to my post about creativity and black/white perspectives. Fascinating stuff!

Before I say something about my specific situation I wanted to briefly comment on the ongoing discussion.

Yes, celebrities sign up for public scrutiny and with that also comes sometimes public judgment, sarcasm, jokes, ridicule or even hatred. It is sad enough that it is that way.

As an individual the only thing I can do and need to do about this is ask myself whether I am contributing to this situation or whether I use my own two cents to make the situation better, the day overall a bit righter, brighter, lighter and for whom.

What the rest of the world does is not my responsibility, because I cannot control that. But when I read that people excuse their own bad behavior with the fact that celebrity have to put up with that, then these are just not people I agree with or want to be friends with, tbh, that’s all.

Whether the person that is harassed is somebody who is gay or black or a foreigner or somebody who is socially awkward, the story is each time the same. Fun and jokes are sometimes a difficult terrain. It is a good thing to make people laugh, so that makes the world brighter, right? Well if I do it on the back of somebody else, is it still ok? What is more important, the protection of the one who gets dissed or hurt in the process or the entertainment of those who are entertained? I prefer entertainment that stays away from such kind of topics. There’s a thin line between the dark side and the light side…somebody close to our heart is singing. A profound line in an otherwise quite light-weight kind of a song (IIHY). And a personal decision to be made by each person, with the celebrity living the result of the ten thousand such individual choices coming together.

One reason I am following Adam is because he consistently chooses the light and bright, but also the right side, even in the face of adversity or when his opinion is that of a minority. And he thinks it through before he makes his point, which is why he usually is 3 steps ahead of everyone else.

When I come online, I usually have the hope to find that same spirit reflected here among each other and quite often it is. But sometimes it is not. Two days ago was a silly situation and my post or the opposing view that was posted next were not the problem, at least for me that was just normal discussion.. But what happened next was ridiculous and not even worth to be debated – it does not even make enough sense to review it. I logged off, but let people know that I left in protest. The thing that had started being about Adam was about everything else 20 pages later.

Adamtopia is by far the best site around when it comes to AdamNews, no question. It is set up great (thanks Q3), with those daily threads, those fantastic archives, concert threads and the multitude of other special threads. It has some great people posting here making wonderful contributions.

But on occasion this site can go off kilter. I had no idea that Kanadie left and I don’t know why he left, so I cannot speak for that, but if this site is losing posters like him, it perhaps is time to do a bit more than just shrug the shoulders and think – oh well, one down. I am stunned to hear these news and very much saddened by this. But to be honest, I can also understand it even though I am guessing.

The fact that so many here have to regularly step away and take a breather may be their personal situation. We all make mistakes. But it also is a sign of a bit too much carelessness and folks better know that they are driving other folks away and probably are hindering again others from joining. It is possible to still keep your individual style of whatever, pea-throwing or deep discussion, but not be hurtful in the process. A bit of thinking and compassion goes a long way.


Skylar and PostfestumPF and many others I want to thank for your posts tonight. And I want to thank Hoopla for at least trying to cut a path through the mess a few days ago. And I am sorry about my rather short cut exit a few days ago, I had no idea that Adam’s wonderful charity drives was going to be a controversial topic. I admit though that my exit was less than elegant, I was just pretty frustrated at the time and I guess it showed. I did not continue to read, so I don’t know whether it ended there or whether you kept going, I just had to get out and get air.

How is it that Adam can turn around a topic in 140 characters or less, if he disagrees with what he sees? That is what I want to know. And he does it without creating a mess.

With that said, I probably will be less here or at least stay a bit more on the sidelines. Will see how that works. On that note, good night to all those folks who are keeping the lights on when we here close things down.