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Pollo Del Mar ‏ @theglamazonpdm

Uploaded a new snippet from my @adamlambert interview to @youtube. (A question NOT in the print version!!!) www.youtube.com/user/TheNotoriousPDM?feature=mhee




Published on May 4, 2012 by TheNotoriousPDM

"American Idol" alum and international superstar Adam Lambert talks to "The (Drag) Queen of All Media" Pollo Del Mar about "super fans," those people who get tattoos of his name, likeness and lyrics. The entire interview is the May 3, 2012 cover story for GLOSS Magazine. Adam's new album "Trespassing" comes out May 15, 2012.

For this interview in its entirety, visit www.GlossMagazine.net

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If the trait, gay, black, Hispanic, etc was not perceived as negative by a large percentage of the population, it would not be a problem. That is not the case, however. Someone mentioned it was the same as someone being called "shy." The only way it is the same is if that person is being interviewed for a job as talk show host, then SHY is a definite problem. Labels are often meant in be negatives, so why not leave them off unless pertinent to the situation. Remaking ROOTS? Then mentioning an actor is African-American is pertinent. Remaking CHICAGO? Not so much.

I get that all stereotypes are based in part on truth but does that make them right? Do we really want to approve of labeling certain behaviors as typical for homosexuals/heterosexuals?

Society deems what is "right" and what isn't and the constraints on males is severe. Just like my son, who learned in kindergarten that he should be playing with toy guns and not with dolls, and he shouldn't tell people one of his favorite colors is pink. Why do you like to garden with your mother? Boys don't cry, shake it off they told him on the ball field. Sports are assumed for him--not his sister, who is fine in drama and art. Heck, now he is going to middle school and I'm worried he'll be made fun of because he chose the flute as his band instrument.

None of these things are precursors to sexual orientation but you can't tell me that the expectations we place on gender do not effect, limit and alter who you might have become without the restraints--or at the very least impress upon you the need to try to fit into the box you are told you "belong" in. And when you don't, this is when identity and self-esteem issues begin.

Stereotyping is simply labeling and assigning expectations based on these labels. The term "gaydar" implies that detecting a person's orientation is relevant. Why does it matter? And the wide-spread use of this term proves that it is socially acceptable to seek out labels for people even if they don't want one.

Sometimes we don't recognize that even if our intentions are good, it doesn't mean that the practice has no negative impact. Small things add up.

And AleksandraKV, I never thought Adam seemed gay on AI. Why did he--because he has OTT? Didn't dress like one of the repressed boys? Seemed less closed off? He just seemed like an awesome guy to me.

Sorry for the rant. I am still evolving but since Adam I have noticed that even the little things that I once didn't notice or thought were meaningless, perhaps aren't.