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Post by haribert on Apr 5, 2013 21:39:53 GMT -5
As a romantic at heart, I believe that there’s a soulmate and/or lifelong love in this world for everyone. But I’m enough of a realist to understand that:
--Not everyone is lucky enough to find that person. Some people, tragically, never once in their existence get a chance to know what it is to be fully and deeply loved. --Even if you do find your soulmate or special partner, you may not be able to hold on to them for as long as you want. Death, lives or ambitions moving in different directions, and other obstacles can separate you long before love reaches its end. --Some people need a different kind of person as their soulmate/partner/teacher/mentor at different times during their odyssey through life. Depending where you are in your life journey, for awhile your personal growth may steer you toward a love who coddles and cares for you and has your back. Then later on, you may be driven to seek someone who motivates you to become more confident and independent.
I’m sad to see Adam and Sauli break up, and hope they’ll continue to sustain each other for years as friends. But, I think Adam may be one of those whose growth path requires different soulmates throughout life. Looking at his adult years (admittedly, from an outside observer’s perspective), it seems like at every significant turning point, almost magically a lover has appeared who has given him exactly what his soul hungered for. When Adam met Sauli, he hadn’t yet experienced something he badly wanted: a deep, intense love he could fully commit to. He also needed someone to inspire him, bring out the best in him physically, artistically, and emotionally, and who could cheerfully cope with the not-so-enjoyable aspects of celebrity. Sauli filled all those needs for Adam, and their relationship enriched him too and helped him grow.
I care deeply for Adam, and Sauli, and I want for them both whatever brings them the most happiness, peace, and love – whether it means that they each find one perfect soulmate for the rest of their lifetimes, or the yencounter many people who bring them joy and enlightenment in different ways. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2013 21:41:49 GMT -5
Hahaahaaa. And very true for some of us, including me, because I am, of course, a little in love with the man  I am actually not surprised at all that Adam's relationship has ended. I think it's partly because of the way Adam has described himself - as being reasonably inexperienced in relationships for someone his age. Even though he is in his early thirties, in terms of deep relationship experience, he's probably in his early to mid-twenties. If that's true, and he is like so many of use at that stage of life, he may be exploring many relationships and quality of relationships, including ones that last for around a year or two, or maybe even less. Some of us do, but many of us do not, meet "the one" until a bit later on, when we know ourselves better and what we want better. I don't know very much about Sauli, because I've never really looked, but I've seen Adam's comfort in his skin deepen while he has been with Sauli, and I believe it has been because he has loved and been loved and accepted in return. Love is precious in all it's forms and no matter what the duration - it is never a failure.  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2013 21:44:04 GMT -5
Options for Idol 1. New single (please, please, please!!!) 2. Song related to Trevor Project - OOL, Underneath 3. Any song from Trespassing era (wouldn't mind Running personally) 4. A new or previously sung cover from tour? Doubt. Anything else? I don't watch Idol but my son keeps me somewhat up to date and from what I have heard, anything EXCEPT A BALLAD. I understand they are rather common this year. Lol! Haven't watched Idol at all this year but do remember now people here reporting too many ballad type songs! Ok. Mys*&@^#r for the win then, upbeat fun new single! |
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Post by lynne on Apr 5, 2013 21:44:39 GMT -5
As you know, mys*&@^#r, I've been kind of out of it for the last couple of days. Do we know Adam is going to be on AI? Pretty sure. It was mentioned in TV Guide and he was recorded and fans interviewed in Shanghai (by an Idol crew.) They have had 2 past Idols on every Thurs. & they do a background of what they've been doing since their season. Then they sing a song.  Aw, thanks. |
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Post by lynne on Apr 5, 2013 21:47:26 GMT -5
On the lighter side, Wish I was a gay man! (Oh, and 20 years younger! LOL!) Heh heh. You made me log in to share my lighter side thought. Now maybe he'll have time for a burrito. On a more serious note, I'm sad they split but since I never believed they'd be together for the next 50 years, I'm not angsting like the rest of the fandom. I only worried how he'd extricate himself from a relationship he'd made so public. I'd wager to say when he meets the one he thinks is for a lifetime, he'll keep it closer to the vest. Just my thoughts on the matter and we all know the lunacy of a burrito. [/b][/b][/b] Bolded part: Been thinking thoughts along those lines, too. One more way being a celebrity is difficult! |
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Post by stella on Apr 5, 2013 21:49:49 GMT -5
I don't watch Idol but my son keeps me somewhat up to date and from what I have heard, anything EXCEPT A BALLAD. I understand they are rather common this year. Lol! Haven't watched Idol at all this year but do remember now people here reporting too many ballad type songs! Ok. Mys*&@^#r for the win then, upbeat fun new single! This is what I want too, no ballad. Something uptempo and fun like Cuckoo! |
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Post by lynne on Apr 5, 2013 21:51:47 GMT -5
We all believe in "freedom of speech" and our BB, Adam, is certainly an advocate for that. But living that philosophy sometimes means defending another's right to say something we think is terribly wrong, offensive, in direct opposition to our own beliefs and opinions, or mind-numbingly ignorant. As a mod I have the "power" to delete or edit any posts on the forum. A day like today taxes my self control, as there were a few comments that had smoke coming out of my ears and daggers trying to shoot out my fingertips into the computer. I applaud all AToppers who have kept the discussion "lively" yet still civil. I admire the ability that many here have to feel grief, and yet, still keep an open mind and heart, acknowledging that we do not, and should not have all the details to make a judgment on either Sauli or Adam.
As a member of ATop and a passionate Adam fan, count me among those who believe Adam and Sauli's personal relationship is no one else's frickin' business. I have been through my share of failed relationships (who hasn't) and worrying/wondering/fearing what family and close friends would say only made things more difficult. The last thing I want Adam or Sauli to do is to make relationship decisions based on what the fans and press might say, or what information they are entitled to, when, and how.
I thought that the way Adam shared the information about the end of their romantic relationship was mature, classy, and respectful. We joke about Adam writing an Adele or Swift break-up rant, but tho' that might be cathartic for the writer, it can be mean and hurtful. Adam took the high road. Good for him.
I wish both boys all the best. [/b] Couldn't agree more! |
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Post by adamfanem on Apr 5, 2013 21:52:52 GMT -5
counselor said:
"Adam is a very sexy man and I find it difficult to believe he can function without sex for long periods of time. "
I wasn't going to go there... but since I read this I will. Truth be told, this was among my first thoughts about it. And perhaps it is the same with Sauli. But I know nothing about their *ahem* needs, and so this is just none of my business speculation. So *grain of salt* thing...
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Post by SusieFierce on Apr 5, 2013 21:53:00 GMT -5
As a romantic at heart, I believe that there’s a soulmate and/or lifelong love in this world for everyone. But I’m enough of a realist to understand that:
--Not everyone is lucky enough to find that person. Some people, tragically, never once in their existence get a chance to know what it is to be fully and deeply loved. --Even if you do find your soulmate or special partner, you may not be able to hold on to them for as long as you want. Death, lives or ambitions moving in different directions, and other obstacles can separate you long before love reaches its end. --Some people need a different kind of person as their soulmate/partner/teacher/mentor at different times during their odyssey through life. Depending where you are in your life journey, for awhile your personal growth may steer you toward a love who coddles and cares for you and has your back. Then later on, you may be driven to seek someone who motivates you to become more confident and independent.
I’m sad to see Adam and Sauli break up, and hope they’ll continue to sustain each other for years as friends. But, I think Adam may be one of those whose growth path requires different soulmates throughout life. Looking at his adult years (admittedly, from an outside observer’s perspective), it seems like at every significant turning point, almost magically a lover has appeared who has given him exactly what his soul hungered for. When Adam met Sauli, he hadn’t yet experienced something he badly wanted: a deep, intense love he could fully commit to. He also needed someone to inspire him, bring out the best in him physically, artistically, and emotionally, and who could cheerfully cope with the not-so-enjoyable aspects of celebrity. Sauli filled all those needs for Adam, and their relationship enriched him too and helped him grow.
I care deeply for Adam, and Sauli, and I want for them both whatever brings them the most happiness, peace, and love – whether it means that they each find one perfect soulmate for the rest of their lifetimes, or the yencounter many people who bring them joy and enlightenment in different ways The bolded part brought tears to my eyes haribert!! I totally believe that! |
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Post by LindaG23 on Apr 5, 2013 21:53:07 GMT -5
Haribert - a very thoughtful post. Thank you from a realist.
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