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I'd wager to say when he meets the one he thinks is for a lifetime, he'll keep it closer to the vest.'Or he'll stop playing pop star. And settle down for a while.
So, while I certainly agree with and am thankful for all the posts pointing out that we have no right to be entitled, I have to say that I am also fully aware that my ability to enjoy this fandom is dependent on Adam's willingness to live this rock star life. My mourning will be not when Adam enters or exits a relationship, but rather when Adam exits the public stage. Of course he will have the right to do that too, just like any other right he has, but that one will be hard. This one in comparison is far more removed from me, an outsider. So, while I am not feeling entitled, I am feeling grateful to be allowed to participate as a fan.
Wanted to comment on those that say that S & A fit together so well. And I know I do not know them personally, but this is my impression. There are certain areas where they fit very well, and they were already mentioned. But I also think there are many others, where they did not fit so much.
To me Sauli is very much a butterfly at heart and I mean that in the best of ways. He loves the sunshine, is loved by all for his inner and outer beauty, his non-threatening ways, his friendliness, his outgoing personality, his fluttery positive spirit. He knows how to use all his strengths to work his own life and he has found his way.
Adam certainly has that sunny, sociable part to him, but there are also very much other sides. First of all, there is dark and light Adam, and I am not sure how Sauli is dealing with dark Adam, besides being a butterfly and hiding somewhere til the storm is over. There is also analytical Adam and I don't think Sauli knows how to deal with all the dialectic debates that Adam is having with himself. Way too heavy stuff for Sauli? Probably yes. There also is brooding Adam, who is cooking up a stew of own thoughts and stirs them for a long time and lets them simmer. Again, too heavy a brew for Sauli.
Adam lifts himself out of his darker side in one of two ways. One is by letting his sunny and sociable side pull him out of it and the other is to pour his perception and feelings into his art and his music. Sauli could only help him with one of the two, Sauli is visual and loves fashion, etc, but I don't see a creative artist.
In addition, I think that Sauli did under-estimate how hard it would be for him to be away from family and friends and how difficult socializing can be in a different culture. LA is not an easy city to live in, even for many locals. Add the whole fame situation only made it harder. He needs more time in Finland, I believe, and Adam needs to be all over the world.
So, while I agree that Adam and Sauli had a lot in common and can look back on two years that were good to them, I do think that there were also many things that pulled them apart, and I guess the time had come for them to let go, and the time has now come for us to do the same.
