4.6.13 Adam is single

I am not sure whether to laugh or be appalled that that is the list of things most people are interested in...

Q3 Quote:

'The part that puzzles me is Adam's March 28, 2012, interview with Fernando and Greg from 99.7 NOW, San Francisco.'

So, this interview was over a year ago (while Adam was doing the infamous radio promotion tour for Trespassing) and at that time they were still going strong. Adam was very much deeply in love.

I recall some 'current boyfriend' comments from Adam and in my memory I am placing them late summer/fall 2012. They were still going strong, but I thought it was the first time that Adam let it show in noticeable way that he did not think of this relationship as 'forever'. Mostly this came up whenever somebody asked him about marriage and prior to the election (Nov. 2012) those topics were everywhere.

But yet, they were still very much together with no immediate end in sight.
Somewhere in the beginning of 2013 things did start to feel quite differently and around his birthday I had a pretty strong feeling that things had changed. We had major discussions here in the following weeks leading up to Valentines Day. And Adam's greeting on that day then was rather brief, certainly not the Rakastan from a year earlier.

Now he says that it had been on its way out over the last few months. That all adds up in timeline. I think they made their decisions in January and from then on planned the exit path. It shows how very much a team they still were over the last few months that they pulled that off together, including the whole visit to Finland, that we thought was the 'great homecoming' for both of them and yet we know now that Adam must have dreaded it to some degree. I thought that leaving St.P he must have been relieved and in a political sense he probably was, but yet the Helskinki chapter for him was much more difficult than we noticed and I now understand why he cancelled so much press. He would have had to lie.

Instead he chose to say nothing and handle the actual visit including the concert in a very classy way and together with Sauli. And then they waited a while to let that be digested and overtaken by other news and now we find out.

Adam and Sauli have lived with all this info since months, they are in a totally different space than we are.

But yes, while Adam was very much in love, I don't believe he ever fully believed in forever and certainly did not believe it anymore last fall. And actually, I don't believe that this has anything to do with Sauli himself, I just think that Adam may not truly believe in forever - period. He just starts thinking about it more when things have settled down and not during the time of first infatuation.

Adam is a child of divorce and he always said his parents' separation was a complete surprise to him. That does shake you up, because if you cannot see it coming in your parents' life, then how will you be sure that you will know in your own life. All kids of 'surprise' parent break-ups have this 'trust' topic hanging over their lives. Other types of divorces - other issues.

And Adam is naturally a doubter and so that will always be with him. But Adam is also very enthusiastic and so he can fall in love and be on cloud nine for a while and yet, when he thinks it through, he does realize that it is not looking like forever for him.
I think in some way, this will always be a self-fulfilling prophecy in his life.