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Post by nannygoat on Dec 14, 2015 14:28:18 GMT -5
I loved my late mother dearly, and I still miss her every day. But she had one habit that made me crazy: no matter how content she was with her current situation in life, no matter how perfectly her plans came together, no matter how much my dad and we kids did our best to make her happy and proud – she still, always, focused on the one thing she could find to complain about.
If you’d come home with mostly A’s on your report card, she’d grumble and grouse because you got a C in gym. If dad gave her a night off by treating us to dinner at a fancy restaurant, she’d thank him but complain that he spent too much, we should have gone to the local burger joint. If you surprised her on her birthday with a homemade cake, she’d whine because you made chocolate batter, not yellow. I hated shopping for clothes or home furnishings with Mum because even pricey stuff wasn’t good enough. She might have been grateful that we could afford nice things, but that didn’t stop her from bitching that the color wasn’t perfect, the workmanship was shoddy, etc., blah blah.
On the other hand, Mum never hesitated when a family member, friend, or neighbor was in need; to ease their pain, she’d go way further than anyone else would. She was one of the most compassionate, kindest people the world has known. So why was she such a Grinch sometimes? Because although she believed she herself didn’t deserve much in life, she thought the people she loved deserved perfection. It wasn’t that things weren’t good enough for her, they weren’t good enough for her precious family.
It took me years to understand this.
I tell you this story because often Atoppers remind me of Mum, with their angsty rants about “Why didn’t Adam play that song I love?” or “I hate those pants, wish he’d ditch them,” and so on. Yeah, some of these attitudes may come out of entitledness. But I think far more of them arise out of our passion for Adam and our fervent wishes for his success. We’re so invested in him that we want him to be perfect and have a perfect career. And so we rage against anything that, to us, doesn’t fit that blemish-less image of our hero. If we could make our desires and wishes for Adam reality, we would. But that’s not how life in the real world works.
So next time I run across another Adam fan ranting on Atop, instead of becoming irritated, I’ll smile and remember Mum and the reasons why “not good enough” was her mantra. It’s all about love.
, this brought me to tears. It is so compassionate, and made even sweeter because it took you time to come to an understanding and acceptance. What a lovely way to look at, and have memories of, your mother. You are a very special person, and I think we would all like to be viewed with sympathetic understanding eyes. Thank you for sharing this pertinent story. We do have a choice about how we view things, don't we? Love is the answer. Choked up when I read Haribert's beautiful post. I often think of all the things that annoyed me about my Mum and now when I look back I have come to the same conclusion.....It was all about LOVE. Especially true when I catch myself doing or saying the same things to my children that I thought were so annoying years ago. I , we, just want the best for for our loved ones, whether it is our children or the guy that we adore, Adam Lambert. Perfection is certainly unobtainable. It's the imperfections that make us human and unique and therefore, more lovable. So here I am reading RedPanda's post and crying all over again. Crying is cathartic, isn't it? |
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Post by nic42 on Dec 14, 2015 14:36:02 GMT -5
I haven't seen an official announcement from Queen yet, but it is on the venue website and ticketmaster already tweeted about it too. This is legit, sure about it. TY! AWESOME! Is it part of some festival or is it a special concert? It is a QAL concert, just them! This was the one that got cancelled last year. I will get another chance to take my husband with me!! He will hear Adam live, at last. Very happy about this one. |
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Post by freakydeaky on Dec 14, 2015 14:39:07 GMT -5
TY! AWESOME! Is it part of some festival or is it a special concert? It is a QAL concert, just them! This was the one that got cancelled last year. I will get another chance to take my husband with me!! He will hear Adam live, at last. Very happy about this one. That would be loads better than a festival for me..... Hmm, thinking, thinking.....  |
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Post by nic42 on Dec 14, 2015 14:39:38 GMT -5
No doubt bout that!  Zipper - dee - doo - dah Zipper - dee - a  |
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Post by freakydeaky on Dec 14, 2015 14:42:09 GMT -5
I've just tried to send 3 pm's that have disappeared since posting them....?? Anyone else having this issue today, or been having it?
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Post by freakydeaky on Dec 14, 2015 14:42:50 GMT -5
No doubt bout that! Zipper - dee - doo - dah Zipper - dee - a  I can't, I just can't......... |
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Post by freakydeaky on Dec 14, 2015 14:47:14 GMT -5
Ha, I just bought my grandson a pair of pant similar! At 8 he is a little fashionista so hoping that I am the cool grandma. I brought shorts like that for my niece when she was 6, she's 8 now. She loved them, but she's going to be like all the women in this family, tall and thin, and so grew out of them after 3 wears...  |
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Post by adamrocks on Dec 14, 2015 14:59:29 GMT -5
Zipper - dee - doo - dah Zipper - dee - a I can't, I just can't.........  |
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