Someone said upthread they come here for comfort . . . that is so true. I have had a heavy heart for the last week and coming here and see BB's Hollywood Handsome face and the beautiful people who post here lifts my spirit.
A dear friend of over 30 years who I love and consider my own sister was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer on Thursday. I spoke to her this pm and instead of me consoling her, she was consoling me. She is a free spirit. She lives in CA. DH told me I should go see her. I saw her last January in CA and did notice she had lost weight and she just brushed it off and said that it was about time (she was never heavy).
Sorry to be such a downer on a beautiful Saturady evening.
Carry on.
Mayumi, listen to your DH. If there's any way you can go see her...I, too, had much sadness last 10 days. 4 deaths in one week--two college friends I only saw intermittently since I moved back to KC...and if that weren't enough...
last Saturday, I found out about my beautiful 48-yr-old poet cousin who moved to Portland 4 mos. ago to die (without telling anyone he was so sick), and my best male lifelong friend of 40 yrs.--who had just retired last Oct., found his dream retirement home and had only two weeks to move in and enjoy it before he got sick.
Craig, my friend, was the only one I got to say goodbye to. And I can't tell you how much that meant to me. No matter how much you think you're prepared, no matter how strong your beliefs and acceptance that death is just the final phase of life...well, it was overpowering.
Getting to hug Craig and sit with him, and as Cayman's quote said, just BE there helped me so much. And as old friends and I shared our funny stories of a lifetime of friendship with this guy, tears turned to laughter and everything was better.
I also used Adam and this place to keep my spirits up. That helped. Craig was like Adam in many ways--no filter and pure sunshine.
I don't want to be a Debbie Downer either--just wanted to say--go see her if you can, Mayumi. And if not, I know you'll find a way to celebrate her life and come to terms.
Sorry so long, but I'd like to share one of my cousin's lighter poems--it's really not OT, because it's about friendship, and that's what this place is about all day long every day.
A Recipe
by Roger Kirschbaum
take four friends
pour them into
the vinyl seats
of one of
detroit's finest
mix in a
bowl of grass
roll down the
windows smoothly
add a dash
of depression
and a pinch of
the privileges
of youth
place them
on the miles
of asphalt that
line the oven
of summer night
and allow to
cruise for
one evening
while waiting
toss a large
fresh salad
with maples
and oaks
ditchweed and
honeysuckle
sprinkle lightly
with a cool
shower from
the west
top with slices
of fading
blue sky
add bits of
small hail
served with
rolls of thunder
remove friends
from the oven
and allow
memories to simmer.
feeds four
for a lifetime.
AND NOW I'M READY FOR MORE APPLE PIE!
Someone asked where the term "apple pie" comes from...has anyone explained that yet? It came from Mainefan (is my memory right?) and started on PF. It's a euphemism for the GB pics. The scent of apple pie always lured people to the thread! ;D
This is a secret that will go no further than here........RIGHT?????????????????
What the heck??????? I, eat, drink and exercise NO differently than I did 5 yrs. ago, why oh why do I not look like the trainer?????????????? :-/