5.1.12 Music Video shoot today

cherry - I sent you a PM (about the youtube videos)

Dear ame, let me tell you what has happened to me and what I think about posting here. I hope you still read the board and will post in the future.

Most of the time I am sleeping when the discussions go on here and often I catch up so late that it seems pointless to say anything. Sometimes I saw new post "in real time" and wanted to express another view to the topic. I tried to keep my post short in order to not get into vocabulary/phrase structures that might be misinterpreted. That was not a good thing because my post probably seemed blunt and maybe I just chose a wrong word to use which lead to angry responses.

I thought that I understood what happened, it must have been because I did not give any background or reasons why. It is also very likely that the anger perceived was not directed to me personally even though I felt discouraged. Later I felt the need to say something and decided to write some background as to why I might have my opinion. That time I quickly got a response denying my experience (which was supposed to be background info only), nothing about my actual opinion, so not a success. Again later I tried to bring up some new aspect related to discussion that was going on. No response at all, maybe I was late. But I suspect that language had a big part to do with it (not a right tone to engage people). Or just that it was not interesting to others. All this is ok, it is just life.

We have difficulties in choosing our words and phrases, and also we might not have all the years in fandom that most of the people here have. For example, I honestly did not know that mentioning a certain name would set the hell loose and all I wanted to do was to discuss the sound and what makes a performance most enjoyable to me. Just one word might make the difference and we have no way of knowing what it is. As much as I hope that others could keep an open mind to my posts and not get any preconceptions in their head, that is a lot to expect. I am not better than anybody else in this respect either. I think that we should try to understand each other and not take anything too personally - even if it hurts initally. That is just how it is, we are very different every one and written word might come across the wrong way. Sometimes the response strikes a sensitive chord in ourselves but we have to remember that the responder has no idea of that possibility.

My conclusion is that I have a lot to learn how to express myself, both in a foreign language and in accordance to the board rules and conventions. It is a process. And I still don't quite grasp the idea how to formulate a post without mentioning the earlier posters or any names besides Adam, and explaining the background and being short at the same time. And that is not a language thing, only. On the other hand, I find some posts odd but they are far and between. So it seems that we all deal with these problems. Mostly posters are very friendly and understanding which is rare in the web.

Above all difficulties, I think that a board like this is a very good thing and my first reaction is not to part with it but learn and grow. Thank you who strive in keeping it a good place to be. I'll get info, pictures, questions, a lot of joy, rants and even disagreements to be part of - and I am sure that nothing said has a malicious intent, only some 'communication disarray' occurring, unfortunately often out of the blue.

Why do we have to look at it as demeaning? Maybe we should be as proud of our body parts as men are of theirs and view the nickname as a tribute! I saw Jack Black on The Tonight Show the other night, and his new album, Rize of the Fenix (yep, that's the spelling) has cover art that depicts a phoenix rising from a fire--but the bird looks exactly like a penis! Google it yourself and see. Is that demeaning? Hollywood often focuses on sexuality, and while it could be viewed as a childish obsession, I don't think it's necessarily sexist or insulting. I don't believe for a minute that Adam only views these women as sexual objects without appreciating their talent.