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Post by smokeyvera on Jun 7, 2011 19:46:33 GMT -5
I had my husband read a lot of these great posts. We are experiencing a lot of issues with our son who is now 15 and has a severe case of ADHD, social misqueing, inappropriate behavior, etc. We are working with him, but sometimes I almost feel if we had a better understanding of his genetic make-up and background (he is adopted), we might be able to penetrate. It is a constant battle daily. It took us 3 years to break one habit that annoyed all the neighorhood kids. Once he did it, what a difference.I feel that with some issues we will have to work with him forever. It is an emotional struggle and I know this will plague him unless we intervene and work with him daily.
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Post by 5thelement on Jun 7, 2011 21:47:56 GMT -5
If I called all 12 yr olds a liar than that would include my daughter, and that is not her at all. BUT - like a lot of 12 yr olds she will tell a little fib to get out of a sticky situation. James Durbin is 22. He has the emotional maturity of someone much much younger. My daughter is light years ahead of her peers intellectually, but emotionally she is way behind, like James who is at a very awkward age for himself. Any 22 yr old has a lot to learn... but since James has Asperger's he's behind the rest of the 22 yr olds. Someone at the other forum suggested that since James is a father he is a grown man. Well, those body parts start working and grow, but the brain stays behind in some ways. In an interview James was asked, "So what's next?" He answered, "Well, the AI tour, recording my album, then my own WORLD tour". Well, I knew he had to be thinking in terms of Adam's post-Idol adventures. Poor guy, he doesn't comprehend the way someone emotionally his age would. I hope Adam understands James' disability. And as a teacher, if you don't already, it would be a good idea for you to as well. I have run across a couple of teachers who don't get it. There was one who was actually fighting me regarding my daughter's needs. We have it tough enough. When people who are not at all affected fight us, you have no idea how devastating it is and how much worse that makes our struggle. |
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Post by 5thelement on Jun 7, 2011 21:52:10 GMT -5
I had my husband read a lot of these great posts. We are experiencing a lot of issues with our son who is now 15 and has a severe case of ADHD, social misqueing, inappropriate behavior, etc. We are working with him, but sometimes I almost feel if we had a better understanding of his genetic make-up and background (he is adopted), we might be able to penetrate. It is a constant battle daily. It took us 3 years to break one habit that annoyed all the neighorhood kids. Once he did it, what a difference.I feel that with some issues we will have to work with him forever. It is an emotional struggle and I know this will plague him unless we intervene and work with him daily. Thank god he found you. You sound like excellent parents. I hear a lot of parents drop the ball on their own biological kids when presented with issues like this. Professionals are key, they have training I wouldn't even fathom. information is your most powerful arsenal. Understanding is your bestest friend. Compassion just makes it all so much sweeter. |
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Post by lynne on Jun 7, 2011 22:38:02 GMT -5
I had my husband read a lot of these great posts. We are experiencing a lot of issues with our son who is now 15 and has a severe case of ADHD, social misqueing, inappropriate behavior, etc. We are working with him, but sometimes I almost feel if we had a better understanding of his genetic make-up and background (he is adopted), we might be able to penetrate. It is a constant battle daily. It took us 3 years to break one habit that annoyed all the neighorhood kids. Once he did it, what a difference.I feel that with some issues we will have to work with him forever. It is an emotional struggle and I know this will plague him unless we intervene and work with him daily. (((((((Hang in there, Smokey.))))))) |
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Post by 5thelement on Jun 7, 2011 23:50:03 GMT -5
What part of my last post did you not understand when I stated that MANY in my direct family are on the Autism/Aspergers Spectrum? I'm not going into any more details than that, but the things you and I have in common might surprise you. I am completely aware and knowledgeable about the diagnosis, differences, and learning techniques that are involved in teaching children that are at different points along the spectrum. You have no idea what type of teaching degree I have and how much experience I have as a teacher and in my immediate family. Don't judge me and I won't judge you. I guess you missed the part of my post that says, "if you don't already". I was told things weren't combative here. I don't know why you read judgement into what I said when it was completely open-ended. So I gather the answer to "if you don't already" is that you do. Simple as that. I'm not so sure about things here. I'm so emotionally raw from this whole topic and the last thing I need is this type of reply. |
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Post by whatfun on Jun 8, 2011 0:02:35 GMT -5
Deleted. Please see tinafea's post reviewing ATOP guidelines below. -HSM
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Post by tinafea on Jun 8, 2011 0:06:26 GMT -5
I appreciate that this thread has become highly emotional. I am posting the guidelines as a reminder to everyone. The Adamtopia guidelines are quite simple. To be a member of Adamtopia... 1. You must be an Adam fan. 2. You must be respectful of other members. Feel free to express you opinion, but be glitterier and golden. 3. Strive to be funny, entertaining or informative when you post. Avoid posting something that has already been posted. 4. Never question anyone's right to post, the appropriateness of a topic or define the proper what for an Adam fan or Adamtopia Member to behave. Let the moderators do their job. Read more: atop.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=guidelines&action=display&thread=10#ixzz1Oeqp0j3H |
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Post by 5thelement on Jun 8, 2011 0:12:26 GMT -5
Deleted because responding to a deleted post -HSM
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Post by tigerlily on Jun 8, 2011 2:02:15 GMT -5
Deleted because responding to a deleted post -HSM
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Post by HoppersSkippersMiners on Jun 8, 2011 4:21:17 GMT -5
[puts on moderators hat]
Guys....jumping on each other is NOT acceptable. See tinafea's reminder above. I *know* this is a hot button topic, but stuff is going to get modded/deleted if you can't respectfully post.
And I REALLY don't want to have to give out personal warnings or involve Q3, as this is a hot button topic for her too. So, kindly use the common courtesy, take a breather if you find yourself getting aggravated, and re-read your posts before hitting the "reply" button to make sure you're making a clear point versus transmitting potentially perceived snipes. Whether you're a long-time poster or a newbie makes no difference.
We have wonderful peeps creating wonderful discussion. Be courteous.
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