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Post by houselady on Jan 11, 2013 22:06:18 GMT -5
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Post by Holst on Jan 11, 2013 22:09:48 GMT -5
It's been very enlightening reading everyone's thoughts on bullying today. I'm still thinking about everything. I have led a charmed life. I was not bullied, ignored, or ever made to feel like I didn't matter. School life was good and so was home. I have skipped (we know this word now) through life with excellent self esteem (maybe I'm just too dumb to know otherwise). :-/ So I have no personal experience with bullying.
However, when I became a teacher, my eyes were opened like never before. I work with kids who are much like the stories you have told of yourselves and loved ones today. Our school really takes bullying seriously. We are a small school and our teachers are very involved with students and families. I have read, though, that teachers only are aware of the tip of the iceberg when it comes to bullying at school. Much of it is, apparently, hidden from us.
I try the best I can to help kids have good self-esteem. For me, that often means encouraging kids to be involved with music--to have a place to belong. On Thursday this week, for some reason I was overcome by the group of middle school kids that float into the music room after lunch to spend a few minutes playing piano or guitar or just talking. I looked around and realized a lot of them are the ones no one wants to eat lunch with, many don't get good grades, etc. I think they are a lovely group of misfits and am so glad they come to the music room as their refuge. Like Adam has said--it's a place where they can feel like they belong. I never knew how tough being a kid can be. Kudos to those of you who made it through terrible times.
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Post by cayman on Jan 11, 2013 22:10:53 GMT -5
Miles Tougeaux þ@milestougeaux @adamlambert Ghandi said "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind". It would also make traffic much worse. Kinda wishing my family had this insight/attitude when I was growing up. End of the day........pretty proud of my Dad.......one generation at a time..... |
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Post by cayman on Jan 11, 2013 22:18:28 GMT -5
@misskellyo: Just ran into my new neighbor @adamlambert he lives across the hall... We are gonna have so much fun!!!Gueess I was wrong about Adam tweeting on a plane! ;D Kisses friend...........why are you soooooooo perfect???????? As our resident PIA??????? Or........help name a drink  , I will be in LA first week of Feb., by the way.......four drinks have a name. :D |
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Post by jo on Jan 11, 2013 22:22:00 GMT -5
Not only are people good at bullying, but they are also quick to judge and get angry before letting someone finish what they are saying - as evidenced here tonight on this site. I may not have been bullied like some have here but I have lost a sister because of this very thing that has gone on here tonight. We need to be better listeners and take the time to understand what people are saying before attacking them. Just saying. :  |
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Post by Albiku on Jan 11, 2013 22:24:22 GMT -5
Not only are people good at bullying, but they are also quick to judge and get angry before letting someone finish what they are saying - as evidenced here tonight on this site. I may not have been bullied like some have here but I have lost a sister because of this very thing that has gone on here tonight. We need to be better listeners and take the time to understand what people are saying before attacking them. Just saying. : No one attacked anyone in here. JS. |
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Post by Albiku on Jan 11, 2013 22:24:52 GMT -5
Adam Lambert addresses bullying issue: 'More should be done to help kids cope'www.pressparty.com/pg/newsdesk/adamlambert/view/65061/Vocal sensation and former 'American Idol' runner up Adam Lambert has called for more to be done both to prevent bullying and to help young people to deal with it. Writing on his official Twitter page earlier today (January 11), the 'Trespassing' hitmaker explained that action needs to be taken: "Bullying sucks. It's true. I feel like we should focus more on helping kids cope and build a thick skin rather than focusing on the bullies?" This tweet comes just a day after modern pop icon Lady Gaga wrote an 'open letter' to Kelly Osbourne, criticising her for dishing out the kind of negativity and verbal abuse she used to receive before she slimmed down. Although Osbourne hasn't responded to the situation, her mother Sharon publicly replied this morning and defender her daughter, calling Gaga the bully for encouraging her 32 million Twitter followers to think badly of her. Photos of Adam plus Vietnam Video lolol Another round of media coming up? : |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2013 22:25:04 GMT -5
@misskellyo: Just ran into my new neighbor @adamlambert he lives across the hall... We are gonna have so much fun!!!Gueess I was wrong about Adam tweeting on a plane! ;D Kisses friend...........why are you soooooooo perfect???????? As our resident PIA??????? Or........help name a drink , I will be in LA first week of Feb., by the way.......four drinks have a name. :D Ha, ha!! Did you use my ideas? And more importantly, will I see you this time or are you going to ignore me again!  |
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Post by annala on Jan 11, 2013 22:36:57 GMT -5
Whew! It seems as though Adam's tweets have opened up a lot of wounds that many of us have experienced especially through our adolescent years. I feel that I now know and appreciate many of you better for expressing your thoughts and experiences - and that took courage and honesty.
Once in a great while I think back to my own teen years and still occasionally angst over some of the experiences and feelings I had then. Then I went through all of this again as a single mom trying to help guide my own three kids through their adolescent years. And now, it's my grandchildren - all of whom are in their teens and early 20's. Who can say who had it the roughest, but I need to single out my autistic grandson, now 18 - a bright child, but with real problems socially and emotionally. My daughter-in-law tried to get him into a special schooling situation but TPTB kept turning her down, saying they he was "bright", that he needed to be main-streamed, that the school district didn't have the funding, etc. Finally she took him with her to one of their evaluation meetings and he spoke up for himself. It was then that TPTB relented and let him attend the one special school that worked. After 3 years there, he was able to attend a regular high school, still in a special classroom situtation but with a great teacher, and was able to main-stream a few classes. He graduated from high school last June. He still has a long way to go, and still has occasional meltdowns - but he did make it through high school - and I'm so proud that he accomplished that.
I believe Adam was speaking from his heart in those tweets, and like the rest of us - you don't forget those years. It wasn't just an academic or philosophical discussion, he still feels these hurts too even after so many years - just as we all do.
My son has been friends with Ann and Nancy Wilson of Heart, and I remember one conversation we had with them backstage after a performance. They were recalling a high school reunion they attended as they had reached fame. They thought - well, we'll show them - so they showed up in a fancy limo and all - and guess what - when they walked in they said "It was high school all over again" - and nothing had changed, all the same feelings again - they could hardly wait to get out of there, and they said they would never do that again.
Anyway - in closing, I just want to say that I feel like we're a part of a warm and accepting circle of supportive members from all over the world - a true "Glamily" - and I appreciate you all
Peace -
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2013 22:46:45 GMT -5
Frecklesexual...I owe you an apology. You have been though the grist as well. You must be a very strong person to have survived what you did. We just had an 'episode' which frightened me and your comment about ignoring remarks tilted me over the top. And I should not have put quote marks on what was not a direct quote from you. It wasn't intentional. I am truly sorry to have gotten on your case. thank you for the apology but I was not offended or hurt by your comment. My empowerment and value in myself even works online . I love that Adam has once again started a conversation about a topic bigger than what he wears or what color his hair is. lighter note: Those Rove and Adam tweets are hysterical and UNF!! Adam is such a natural flirt and I love that a straight guy (Rove is straight right?) is comfortable enough to flirt right back with him!! |
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, I will be in LA first week of Feb., by the way.......four drinks have a name. :D
