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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2011 12:03:45 GMT -5
There are more straight people not getting married than married today.. It's a trend. Adam has said he would like children one day,when he has the time to give them.. I would expect he feels the same about marriage.He is building his career and he's young. I do believe from what I see ,that Adam and Sauli are in love. Why can't they be together without the benefit of Marriage? ITA with you....but....Adam did not say 'I am not ready to consider this at the moment' the way he has said he might like children one day...he said "I do not see marriage in my future"...that is quite a different statement...there are no hedges quoted [and this may be the issue] but no hedges like 'for now' or the 'foreseeable' future or 'at the moment'. Nor did he say 'I don't really see a reason to formalize our/any relationship"...just struck me odd as stated...looked pretty definite. JMHO... Disagree! Any answer that had a possible "yes" to marriage would have been interpreted by US magazine and the fans as, "Adam and Sauli are thinking of getting married." And since Adam had just replied that he was not going to discuss the relationship, the answer was perfect. Besides, in my history with men (hubby, son, and Son in-law,) most don't admit they want to get married until 24 hours before they decide to go ring shopping!  |
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Post by needacoke on Aug 2, 2011 12:06:33 GMT -5
I hear what you are saying...and you may well be right....but he was casually dismissive of Drake I suspect....I remember a tweet from Drake referencing 'Loaded Smile'....and that was not about marriage but about love. If Drake went along with a 'love-less' relationship, I would expect it would have been either for the political statement of the relationship or for the publicity but he has not used either of those options so I would assume he really cared. I am not trying to be provocative in any way and I never felt any particular connection for Drake, along with agreeing that the relationship never seemed to have any spark. But that may be because Adam made it abundantly clear that his feelings for Drake did not run particularly deep. Maybe I need to quit thinking out loud!! :  ???  Oh come on now! Everyone knows Adam and Drake were tru wuv! How could anyone NOT love a man who could make such epic bitch faces and rock a twink tank so flawlessly or make a painting of saggy orange boobs so expertly?!?!?! |
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Post by lulu2365 on Aug 2, 2011 12:07:32 GMT -5
Name Sony Music Canada Location Canada Web www.facebo... Bio Sony Music Canada @sony_Music We LOVE this photo of @adamlambert biking around Montreal on a Bixi! ow.ly/5TdTC Who was at the show on Friday? #Outlawsoflove |
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Post by emmuzka on Aug 2, 2011 12:08:09 GMT -5
I know it is not our business, and I expect that they have discussed, or at least made their opinions known to each other, but I can't help wondering if the 'I don't see marriage in my future' might be hurtful to Sauli. I remember feeling really sorry for Drake having to be seen as Adam's boyfriend at the same time as he made it abundantly clear, multiple times, that he was only ever in love once and that it was not his present [drake] relationship. How to hurt someone!!! Sometimes complete honesty may not be the kindest option.....who knows...just empathizing... IMO, that was the only answer he could give. He just refused to say anything about Sauli. If he had given any other answer, it would have been interpreted as "thinking about marrying Sauli." Even if they are thinking of getting married tomorrow, he still gave the right answer.  Adam saying that he isn't seeing a marriage in his future = A discreet way to say that he won't be discussing the issue on a viewpoint that could cause speculation on his personal situation. No matter what A & S' plans are for the future, I don't think that Sauli will be hurt at all about his boyfriend saying, at this point, that a marriage is off the table. I'm sure that they have shared private feelings about the issue and what is publicly stated won't change them. On the other hand, if it would be extremely important to someone to make an issue of how things look, or how things can be interpreted, then "writing off" a boyfriend could cause hurt. Personally I believe that neither in that relationship is insecure enough to care how serious or not serious the media wants to interpret their relationship. |
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Post by adamrocks on Aug 2, 2011 12:11:00 GMT -5
Oh come on now! Everyone knows Adam and Drake were tru wuv! How could anyone NOT love a man who could make such epic bitch faces and rock a twink tank so flawlessly or make a painting of saggy orange boobs so expertly?!?!?! [/i][/quote] THIS^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^  |
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Post by mischa on Aug 2, 2011 12:13:31 GMT -5
IDK, I mean how do we know that Sauli is even interested in marriage? IMO, a relationship can be just as meaningful without a marriage license. As for Drake, again, we have no idea about his feelings. Maybe both he and Adam talked about how they felt and neither was in love. I just don't see Adam being casually dismissive of those he cares about. JMO Adam and Sauli both have careers that they are still establishing and need to devote a lot of time and energy on them. They seem very committed to each other but maybe both feel their lives are not at the 'marriage' stage. They have a lot of time for continued growth in their relationship and, like any other couple, they can make the decision to marry or not when the time is right for them. I really don't feel Adam's statement in the article would be hurtful to Sauli...I just feel they're on the same page about this. JMO HAPPY BIRTHDAY, FEELALIVE!![/size] Hope your day is filled with everything you like to do! MOMTOMANY I PM'd you. [/quote] Goldie Hawn/Kurt Russell Susan Sarandon/Tim ? Johnny Depp/ ? Marriage isn't always the choice or the answer for everyone and I do remember Adam stating that he thinks you can have a number of soulmates in your life who come into your life for a purpose, you both learn and grow from the relationship. I also am sure Adam wouldn't speak carelessly or be insensitive to Sauli in his statements. |
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Post by gelly14 on Aug 2, 2011 12:14:26 GMT -5
There are more straight people not getting married than married today.. It's a trend. Adam has said he would like children one day,when he has the time to give them.. I would expect he feels the same about marriage.He is building his career and he's young. I do believe from what I see ,that Adam and Sauli are in love. Why can't they be together without the benefit of Marriage? My daughter is one of these. She is in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful man, right now. She has hinted, to me, that she is not interested in having children. She is really into dogs! With that in mind, I can completely see she and her guy not getting married. In my old age, I have come to the conclusion that unless you want children, getting married just isn't a big deal anymore. May I add my story to this. I'm not young (I'm 52) and in these days everyone was married. I never thought of marriage as a big deal. The only reason I got married was cause my MIL said she would be ashamed to walk in public if we didn't get married in a church. Even my mother was OK with my decision. And my marriage was held in the most simple way. And now my daughter who is in a relationship for 8 years now, feels the same as me. She feels marriage adds nothing to her relationship and I happen to agree. No big deal. JMHO. |
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Post by lynne on Aug 2, 2011 12:15:53 GMT -5
There are more straight people not getting married than married today.. It's a trend. Adam has said he would like children one day,when he has the time to give them.. I would expect he feels the same about marriage.He is building his career and he's young. I do believe from what I see ,that Adam and Sauli are in love. Why can't they be together without the benefit of Marriage? ITA with you....but....Adam did not say 'I am not ready to consider this at the moment' the way he has said he might like children one day...he said "I do not see marriage in my future"...that is quite a different statement...there are no hedges quoted [and this may be the issue] but no hedges like 'for now' or the 'foreseeable' future or 'at the moment'. Nor did he say 'I don't really see a reason to formalize our/any relationship"...just struck me odd as stated...looked pretty definite. JMHO... Also, this is an awkward question. Who knows what Adam thinks about the institution of marriage? I don't think we can know unless he chooses to clarify that for us. I am really glad for the choice in that now allows that question to be asked. On a side note, last year when my mother asked my son about marriage, he has been living with his g/f for two years, he laughed and said that was something he never thought about. This year, at our family vacation, he told her he plans to marry his girlfriend in a couple of years, LOL. I wonder what he will say next year? |
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Post by lynneville on Aug 2, 2011 12:16:01 GMT -5
devenlane I GOT YOUR SAUSAGE REPEAT: I ALSO MADE AN ALPHABETICAL QUICKLINKS PAGE TO ALL MEDIA FOR ALL YEARS. ITS NOT DONE YET BUT YOU GET THE IDEA bit.ly/iZ20Tw |
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Post by cookie on Aug 2, 2011 12:19:38 GMT -5
I know it is not our business, and I expect that they have discussed, or at least made their opinions known to each other, but I can't help wondering if the 'I don't see marriage in my future' might be hurtful to Sauli. I remember feeling really sorry for Drake having to be seen as Adam's boyfriend at the same time as he made it abundantly clear, multiple times, that he was only ever in love once and that it was not his present [drake] relationship. How to hurt someone!!! Sometimes complete honesty may not be the kindest option.....who knows...just empathizing... IDK, I mean how do we know that Sauli is even interested in marriage? IMO, a relationship can be just as meaningful without a marriage license. As for Drake, again, we have no idea about his feelings. Maybe both he and Adam talked about how they felt and neither was in love. I just don't see Adam being casually dismissive of those he cares about. JMO We know Adam sometimes gives broad answers that can mean a whole lot of things when he doesn't want to talk much about something. He's made it abundantly clear that he wants to keep this relationship, to a large extent, within his personal (and not public) life. Saying he doesn't see himself getting married could mean "never", or "not with this boyfriend", or "we haven't known each other long enough yet", or "I would but he doesn't want to", or "it's none of your damn business." I would say that based on this interview, we have no idea what he thinks about marriage. |
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